The Naked Woman At Ukwu Orji: A Reflection On Decency And Etiquette

By Valentine Obienyem 

My old teacher, Fr. Collins Okeke, often reminded us many years ago that some actions cannot be justified by any known philosophy of human frailty – not merely because of the act itself, but because of the act and the actor.

A behaviour may be overlooked when displayed by the young because of inexperience, but when the same conduct comes from someone of advanced age and responsibility, society naturally views it differently. Age, experience, and social standing come with expectations.

This reflection came to mind yesterday at “Ukwu Orji” Market, where the appearance and conduct of a woman well above 30 attracted widespread attention. Her picture is attached. It raised a broader question: have we lost our sense of age, dignity, and appropriate public conduct?

Perhaps it is time we introduce  the teaching of etiquette in our schools. In our days, such training was an important part of seminary formation. Beyond mere dressing, etiquette teaches self-awareness, respect for others, and the ability to conduct oneself properly in different settings.

A modern etiquette curriculum should address:

Sartorial decency: understanding appropriate dressing, the difference between self-expression and public slovenliness, and the importance of presenting oneself with dignity.

Context and maturity: recognising that age, role, and environment shape expectations of conduct.

Civic behaviour: appreciating that society functions better when people observe basic standards of respect and decorum.

A society that stops teaching courtesy and proper conduct gradually loses its morality as we have so effectively achieved. Etiquette is not about oppression or unnecessary restrictions; it is about dignity, respect, and the understanding that our actions communicate who we are.